When the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was a delight to the eyes, and that the tree was desirable to make one wise, she took from its fruit and ate; and she gave also to her husband with her, and he ate. – Genesis 3:6
Rebels almost always desire companionship. Do you know why? Because they have fear and guilt in their hearts, and they don’t want to face the consequences of their rebellion alone. They know there’s going to be a payday. They know there’s a consequence. So, they rebel with others because they want someone else to go through it too. When rebels get together, they don’t care about each other. Sin is self-centered. Therefore, they don’t want to face the consequences of sin alone.
In Genesis 3, we have the story of Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden. Eve disobeys God. But what does she do next? She immediately involves Adam. She went from being a rebel to forming a band of rebels. She felt guilty, she feared the consequence, and she didn’t want to face it alone. So she enticed Adam to rebel with her. But Adam is just as much to blame because he goes along seeing no immediate consequence and hoping to keep the peace. Once again, it’s the thought of taking care of self again. But, you can’t see the torture of Eve’s guilty conscience. Remember, Satan is the master of disguise. He makes wicked, evil, painful things look good.
You know, one who joins up with rebels often is a person who has had a deep disappointment in life. They want love and acceptance from others and they choose the wrong group. Now, why is that? Well, it’s actually not the wrong group but the right group. They are harboring unforgiveness and bitterness in their hearts, which is the quintessential opposite of God’s nature! You see, here’s what a lot of parents think, “My child is a good kid but they got with the wrong group.” No, you didn’t know what kind of rebellion was inside that child. On the outside they were dotting the i’s and crossing the t’s, but on the inside they had a rebel heart so they fit the rebel band.
So, how do we help them? We help them by speaking the truth in love. Moms and dads, quit making excuses for your children. Love them enough to look them in the eye and say, “You don’t like church, you don’t like the Scriptures, and you don’t like the things of God because you don’t love God. You love your sin.” Help them. Do not be an enabler to their sin and idolatry. You must be compassionate and heartbroken about it, but speak the truth to your children in love. Show them that God’s will is for them to forgive. They must see from the God’s word that the humble person knows God’s hand is in everything, and they can have the grace from God to be forgiving.